below is an excerpt written by Tiffany Kirchner Dixon for Kelly Rae: The Possibilitarian Project

© The Fancy Farmgirl, Tiffany Kirchner Dixon

You see, my home situation was a little different from most. A wife at the age of 20, a mother at the age of 23, it wasn’t until my second child was born that our lives took a direction we could not possibly anticipate. Our youngest child was born with a disorder called Rett Syndrome. She is confined to a wheelchair, has dibilitating seizures, is non-verbal and eats through a feeding tube. Out of such tragedy came several gifts. The most important was unconditional love. Both the kind she has for me, and I have for her. The other gift has been perspective. The kind you gain when you live everyday with a child that truly has nothing to live for, yet can manage to wake up cheerful and have a smile on her face. It is a miraculous thing to witness and has brought my own life to a place where possiblity now rules. It has taught me that no matter how rough the road may be that you have a choice in the situation, even when there seems not to be any choice.

© The Fancy Farmgirl, Tiffany Kirchner Dixon

I stopped living in fear of judgement because one thing my daughter has taught me is there is no time to waste. I started to allow myself to change dreams into real concepts, rooted in the fact that the only failure was if I let my own cowardice hold me back. I also knew that if I was to be the best mother and wife I could be, that I must care about my own happiness and not just that of my husband and children. It is a very fine balance to find, but as the matriarch it is also our duty to teach our family how to nurture others as much as we nurture them. I wanted to have a creative career, to take a hobby and turn it into something bigger. I wanted the world to experience life through my eyes. I started wearing vintage prom dresses anywhere I wanted and if people teased me I shrugged it off. But mostly people embraced me. They could feel the happiness it brought to me, and it propelled them to take their own risks without fear of judgement.

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The Possibilitarian Project is a great motivational movement. If you have not yet heard about it, you simply must check it out.

Kelly Rae: The Possibilitarian Project

Kelly Rae Roberts is an artist, author, and Possibilitarian. You can visit Kelly Rae’s site at www.kellyraeroberts.blogspot.com.

Tiffany Kirchner Dixon is a mother and professional freelance photographer, and Possibilitarian. You can visit Tiffany Kirchner Dixon’s site at www.thefancyfarmgirl.com.