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Love Forever

by Anna Renee Robinson

Love is like the essence of a rose,

Appearing delicate and beautiful

Resting easy with confidence

Enticing with it’s aroma

However, it may be bitter sweet

Love may prick you,

Love may change you,

You worry, you fret

In the end the bud blooms

Beautiful, Noble, Sweet

 

Anna Renee is an up and coming writer/poet with an aesthetically appealing passion that is absolutely lovely.  Her works can be found at “Simply Anna Renee.”  I encourage all to visit her blog or Facebook page to experience such insightful beauty.~Michelle Maynard-Koenig

15 Powerful Things Happy People Do Differently

written by danaadmin at Purpose Fairy

What is the difference between happy people and unhappy people? Of course, it may be very obvious, happy people are happy while unhappy people are unhappy, right? Well, that is correct, but we want to know what are the things that these people do differently and that is why, I have put together a list of things that HAPPY people do differently than UNHAPPY people.

1. LOVE vs. FEAR. Well, I can tell you for sure that those people who are really happy, FEAR less and LOVE a lot more.They see each moment, each challenge, each person as an opportunity to discover more about themselves and the world around them.

2. ACCEPTANCE vs. RESISTANCE.  Happy people understand that you can’t really change a situation by resisting it, but you can definitely change it by accepting that it is there and by understanding that there might be a reason for its existence. When something unpleasant happens to them, they don’t try to fight it, knowing that this will make the situation even worse, but rather, they ask themselves questions like: What can I learn from this? How can I make this better? and they go from there, focusing on the positive rather than on the negative. They always seem to see the glass half full no matter what happens to them.

3. FORGIVENESS vs. UNFORGIVENESS. Really happy people know that it’s not healthy to hold on to anger. They choose to FORGIVE and FORGET, understanding that FORGIVENESS is  a gift they give to themselves first and foremost.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.~Buddha

4. TRUST vs. DOUBT. They trust themselves and they trust the people around them. No matter if they talk to the cleaning lady or the C.E.O. of a multi billion company, somehow they always seem make the person they are interacting with feel like there is something unique and special about them.

They understand that beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies, and because of that, they make sure to treat everybody with love, dignity and respect, making no distinctions between age, sex, social status, color, religion or race. These are the great men that Mark Twain was talking about.

Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. ~Mark Twain

5. MEANING vs. AMBITION.  They do the things they do because of the meaning it brings into their lives and because they get a sense of purpose by doing so. They understand that “Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life” like Wayne Dyer puts it, and they care more about living a life full of meaning rather than, what in our modern society we would call, living a successful life.

The irony here is that most of the time they get both, success and meaning, just because they choose to focus on doing the things they love the most and they always pursue their heart desires. They are not motivated by money; they want to make a difference in the lives of those around them and in the world.

6. PRAISING vs. CRITICIZING. Happy people would probably agree with Carl’s Jung theory on resistance: “What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.”  They don’t criticize the absence of the behavior they want to reinforce, but ratherevery time the behavior is present, even if it’s not that often, they know that by praising the person and the behavior, they will actually reinforce the positive behavior.

When a parent wants to make sure that his 7 years old boy will learn to always put the toys back in the box after he’s done playing with them, he will make sure not to focus on the many times the child won’t do it, criticizing him and his behavior, but rather, every time the little boy does put the toys back, the parent will praise him and his behavior and that is exactly how he will reinforce the positive behavior, and in the end geting the wanted results.

7. CHALLENGES vs. PROBLEMS. Happy people will see PROBLEMS as CHALLENGES, as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things, expressing their gratitude for them, understanding that underneath them all lies many opportunities that will allow them to expand and to grow.

8. SELFLESSNESS vs. SELFISHNESS. They do what they do not for themselves, but for the good of others, making sure that they bring meaning, empowerment and happiness in the lives of many. They look for ways to give and to share the best of themselves with the world and to make other people happy.

Before giving, the mind of the giver is happy; while giving, the mind of the giver is made peaceful; and having given, the mind of the giver is uplifted.~Buddha

9. ABUNDANCE vs. LACK/POVERTY. They have an abundant mindset living a balanced life, achieving abundance in all areas of life.

10. DREAMING BIG vs. BEING REALISTIC. These people don’t really care about being realistic. They love and dare to dream big, they always listen to their heart and intuition and the greatness of their accomplishments scares many of us.

Dream no small dreams for they have no power to move the hearts of men.~Goethe

11. KINDNESS vs. CRUELTY. They are kind to themselves and others and they understand the power of self love, self forgiveness and self acceptance.

12. GRATITUDE vs. INGRATITUDE. No no matter where they look, no matter where they are or with who, they have this capacity of seeing beauty where most of us would only see ugliness, opportunities, where most of us would only see struggles, abundance where most of us would only see lack and they express their gratitude for them all.

13. PRESENCE/ ENGAGEMENT vs. DISENGAGEMENT. They know how to live in the present moment, appreciating what they have and where they are, while still having big dreams about the future.

When you are present, you can allow the mind to be as it is without getting entangled in it. The mind in itself is a wonderful tool. Dysfunction sets in when you seek your self in it and mistake it for who you are.~Eckhart Tolle

14. POSITIVITY vs. NEGATIVITY. No matter what happens to them, they always seem to keep a positive perspective on everything and by doing so, they tend irritate a lot of negative and “realistic” people.

15. TAKING RESPONSIBILITY vs. BLAMINGThey take full ownership over their lives and they rarely use excuses. Happy people understand that the moment you choose to blame some outside forces for whatever it is that happens to you, you are in fact giving all your power away, and they choose to keep the power for themselves and taking responsibility for everything that happens to them.

 

Word of the Day: “Growth”

growth/grōTH/

Noun:
  1. The process of increasing in physical size.
  2. The process of developing or maturing physically, mentally, or spiritually.
Synonyms: cultivation – evolution – improvement – unfolding

I find “growth” is often an uncomfortable expedition in life.  A safari into the jungles of the unknown, where anxiety and worry growls behind canopies of accumulated doubts and fears.  I have run from it, tried to hide from it, avoid it, denied it, but it wasn’t until I just stopped and acknowledged it that it become easier to let go and just go with the flow.  Fortified in acceptance and courage, I have come to trust that the uneasiness of growing pains leads me to a discovery of greater awareness:  mentally, physically and spiritually.   Change and growth leads me to uncover layers of my existence.   Growth cultivates living.  Without it, what remains?

Below is a terrific article that so wonderfully illustrates how growth is necessary to take us to the next level; nothing that lives can stay the same. Life is all about growth and change.

Striving for ‘Sweet Discomfort’

Not pain, but not where you’re used to being.

Published on January 10, 2011 by Dara Chadwick

Recently, I took a three-hour yoga workshop in the afternoon — that’s right: three hours — and the instructor introduced an interesting concept. There’s a difference, she said, between pain and what she called “sweet discomfort.”

Sweet discomfort. I love that image.

Sweet discomfort, she said, is the point at which you’re aware that you’re stretching beyond your capabilities. It doesn’t hurt, but it’s not where you’re used to being.

Sweet discomfort is something I’ve experienced many times, but because I fear it will lead to real pain, I sometimes turn back. The result?

No growth. No increased flexibility. No moving to the next level.

I certainly experienced sweet discomfort when I was learning to eat a healthier diet and to challenge my body with exercise. There are body image moments of sweet discomfort, too. Maybe it’s wearing a form-fitting dress after years of hiding. Or walking down the beach in a new swimsuit. Or looking — really looking — in the mirror.

None of these things cause pain. But they can sometimes cause that uncomfortable feeling.

Experiencing the “sweet discomfort” — and knowing that a new way of being or of looking at ourselves exists on the other side — is something to strive for. Whenever I have that “I want to turn back” feeling, I’ll forever stop to ask myself: Is what I’m feeling pain?

Or simply sweet discomfort?